What if we resolved to quit trying to change?

What if we resolved to quit trying to change?

What if we resolved to quit trying to change? 150 150 JJ Landis

Call me a curmudgeon, but I don’t always enjoy New Year’s Eve. I can stay up until midnight with the best of them, but when it’s obligatory, I feel my rebellious nature take over and want to curl up in bed after dinner.

I think part of my ambivalence comes from the practice of making resolutions. I am a goal-setter so this should appeal to me, but I never fully embraced this ritual. From one day to the next is so arbitrary – sure it’s a new year, but is there really any difference in your life from today Thursday to tomorrow Friday?

The only resolution I ever made was a joke a few years ago: “I will order bacon every time I eat at a restaurant.” Gotta say – I kept it. I ate a lot of BLTs that year and was quite fulfilled.

Resolutions are about changing ourselves. I think it’s safe to say: We could all do some changing for the better. We all have habits to shake and habits to acquire. Any of us who thinks otherwise probably needs the most work.

But what if we resolved to quit trying to change?

Stop the madness. Be content. Be satisfied with today.

This is the message of my blog or ministry or whatever you want to call it – LIVING FOR REAL means to look around and see today. And take it. Be honest with yourself and don’t hate what you discover with that honesty. It also means to get over yourself and just relax in the skin you have.

Quit trying so hard to be better. You are enough for now. For today, you are you. Tomorrow you will be a different you.

Let’s all quit setting ourselves up for failure.

We can lose flab. We can volunteer more. We can quit smoking or drinking. We can get a new job. We can eat healthy food. We can manage stress. We can get out of debt. We can save money. We can reduce, reuse, recycle. We can sleep more or less. We can watch less TV. We can get off social media. We can read the Bible more.

Whatever. Sure, that’s all possible. But why?

Consider your heart first.

What if instead of focusing on the outside stuff, we looked within and desired peace on the inside? What if things like wholeness and contentment were our focus? For real. We often say those things are our priorities, but what if we really meant it?

What if we set ourselves free to JUST BE?

Little secret for ya. God knows you and accepts you right now. He knows all your faults. He won’t love you more or less tomorrow. Or a week from now when all your resolutions fall flat.

So have a Happy 2016! But also be sure to have a Content Today!

I will leave you with these words from David in the Bible.

Psalm 139: 1-18

You have searched me, Lord, and you know me. You know when I sit and when I rise; you perceive my thoughts from afar.

You discern my going out and my lying down; you are familiar with all my ways. Before a word is on my tongue you, Lord, know it completely.

You hem me in behind and before, and you lay your hand upon me. Such knowledge is too wonderful for me, too lofty for me to attain.

Where can I go from your Spirit? Where can I flee from your presence? If I go up to the heavens, you are there; if I make my bed in the depths, you are there.

If I rise on the wings of the dawn, if I settle on the far side of the sea, even there your hand will guide me, your right hand will hold me fast.

If I say, “Surely the darkness will hide me and the light become night around me,” even the darkness will not be dark to you; the night will shine like the day, for darkness is as light to you.

For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.

My frame was not hidden from you when I was made in the secret place, when I was woven together in the depths of the earth. Your eyes saw my unformed body; all the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be.

How precious to me are your thoughts, God! How vast is the sum of them! Were I to count them, they would outnumber the grains of sand—when I awake, I am still with you.


JJ Landis

JJ Landis is the author of "Some Things You Keep." She is a librarian in Pennsylvania where she lives with her husband and three children. She blogs about parenting, marriage, and getting through the day at jjlandis.com.

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